There’s a quiet crisis unfolding in many Southern Baptist churches—and it’s leaving a trail of wounded pastors, divided congregations, and empty pulpits.
It’s not a theology problem.
It’s not a culture war problem.
It’s a leadership problem—more specifically, a deacon problem.
While deacons were appointed in Acts 6 to serve the church and protect its unity, in far too many churches today, the role has been distorted into something unrecognizable. Deacons, who should be the lead servants, have become the chief critics. In some congregations, they function less like Christlike helpers and more like an ecclesiastical board of directors, often overpowering or ousting pastors they disagree with.
And the consequences? They’re staggering.
The Numbers Tell the Story
Southern Baptist pastors are hurting—and many are walking away from ministry altogether.
📉 According to a 2023 Lifeway Research study:
- 63% of pastors say they feel isolated and under constant criticism.
- 38% considered quitting full-time ministry in the past year.
- Only 1 in 10 seminary graduates will retire as a pastor in vocational ministry.
And perhaps the most telling statistic?
📌 A 2022 Barna study found that among pastors who had considered quitting, the most common reasons were:
- Stress and burnout
- Conflict in the church
- Feeling unsupported by leadership
In too many Southern Baptist churches, the primary source of that conflict and lack of support is a misunderstanding and misuse of the office of deacon.
Many pastors aren’t leaving because they lost faith in God.
They’re leaving because they got run off by deacons who lost sight of their biblical role.
From Servants to Supervisors
The Bible paints a clear picture of deacons: They are servants, not supervisors. But in many churches, the title “deacon” has come to mean power, position, and control.
Imagine if the men chosen in Acts 6 acted the way many modern deacons do today.
The apostles are overwhelmed with the needs of the people—especially widows being overlooked in the daily distribution of food. So they appoint seven godly men to help.
Now imagine Stephen and Philip holding private meetings to question Peter’s sermons.
Imagine them arguing about the apostles’ “leadership style” and calling for votes of no confidence.
Imagine them refusing to serve the widows until their authority was recognized.
Imagine them trying to dictate how the apostles should pray, preach, and lead.
Absurd, right?
But sadly, not far off from what’s happening in some churches today.
What Acts 6 Actually Shows Us
In Acts 6, the early church faced a serious challenge. The apostles were so overwhelmed by the growing needs of the body that the ministry of the Word and prayer was at risk. So they said:
“Brothers and sisters, select from among you seven men of good reputation, full of the Spirit and wisdom, whom we may put in charge of this task.” (Acts 6:3)
These seven were not appointed to hold the apostles accountable.
They were appointed to hold up the ministry—to meet physical needs so the spiritual leadership could focus on prayer and preaching.
And the result?
“The word of God continued to spread; the number of the disciples increased greatly in Jerusalem…” (Acts 6:7)
Faithful servant ministry brought spiritual breakthrough.
It’s Time to Return to Biblical Deacon Ministry
Deacons are not called to run the church—but to relieve the strain on those who do.
They are not called to wield power—but to wash feet.
Not to fight pastors—but to free them to fulfill their calling.
In many Southern Baptist churches, deacons have unintentionally drifted into a role God never gave them—and the result is pastors forced to resign, churches in turmoil, and a gospel mission that stalls out.
It’s time for a course correction.
We don’t need more powerful deacon boards.
We need Spirit-filled servant leaders—just like Acts 6.
Deacons like Stephen—men full of grace, courage, and the Holy Spirit.
Deacons like Philip—faithful in serving tables and bold in proclaiming Christ.
That kind of deacon doesn’t run off pastors.
He runs alongside them.
A Final Word to Deacons
If you’re a deacon:
Your church doesn’t need you to be a decision-maker.
It needs you to be a disciple-maker.
Not a watchdog—but a warrior in prayer and service.
Not a political force—but a spiritual pillar.
You were called to protect the unity of the church, meet the needs of the body, and support the ministry of the Word—not to stand in its way.
If the role you’re filling doesn’t look like Acts 6, it’s time to return to the blueprint.
Let the church be led by shepherds.
Let deacons be the lead servants.
And let Christ be glorified.
The future of the church doesn’t rest on power plays—but on humble men who will take up towels instead of titles.
It’s time to stop rewriting Acts 6—and start living it.
Practical Steps Toward Reform and Renewal in the Local Church
Diagnosing the problem is only the first step. Once a church realizes it has strayed from the biblical model of leadership—often with deacons functioning more like a board of trustees or power brokers rather than servant-hearted spiritual men—action must be taken. Reform isn’t easy. But just as a diseased body must undergo painful surgery to remove cancer and begin to heal, so too must a church confront and correct what is spiritually harmful. Here are some practical ways to do that:
1. Teach and Re-teach the Biblical Model of Leadership
Begin with the Word. Most power struggles arise not just from sin but from ignorance. Churches need regular, intentional teaching on:
- Acts 6 and the origin of the deacon role as servants, not overseers.
- 1 Timothy 3 and the qualifications for both elders and deacons.
- Ephesians 4:11–12 and the purpose of church leadership—to equip the saints, not control them.
This teaching should be done from the pulpit, in Sunday School, and in leadership training settings. Use real-life examples of healthy churches, and contrast them with common dysfunctions.
2. Reform Church Documents and Structures
Churches must review and revise their bylaws, constitutions, and committee structures to align with Scripture:
- Make clear distinctions between pastoral authority (leadership and oversight) and deacon service (support and care).
- Eliminate “deacon boards” with veto power over pastors.
- Require spiritual qualifications and term limits for leadership positions.
If your church structure gives ultimate authority to a group of deacons, it’s not a biblical or congregational model—it’s a corporate one. Reform starts here.
3. Call the Church to Repentance
Before any changes are made, the church must recognize that this isn’t just a strategic problem—it’s a spiritual one. Pride, power-hunger, and division are sins that grieve the Spirit. Leadership should:
- Hold a solemn assembly or special prayer service of repentance.
- Preach on humility, unity, and submission to Christ as the head of the church (Col. 1:18).
- Ask God to purify the motives and actions of all leaders.
God honors brokenness and repentance. Revival often begins when churches are willing to humble themselves before the Lord.
4. Confront and Remove Ungodly Leaders
If men currently in leadership are unqualified, domineering, or spiritually abusive, they must be addressed directly.
- Use Matthew 18 and 1 Timothy 5:19-20 as guides.
- Meet privately first. If there’s no repentance, involve other leaders and eventually the congregation.
- Don’t be afraid to remove deacons or others from leadership positions. It’s not unloving—it’s obedient.
You wouldn’t leave cancer untreated in your physical body. In the same way, removing harmful leadership is a necessary act of love and spiritual stewardship.
5. Raise Up Godly Leaders, Not Yes-Men
Don’t just fill positions—cultivate men of character:
- Start a men’s discipleship process to prepare future elders and deacons.
- Focus on humility, servanthood, and biblical understanding, not business acumen or popularity.
- Let men prove themselves over time (1 Tim. 3:10).
A church can’t be healthy if its leaders are spiritually immature. Raise up men who love Jesus more than they love power.
6. Create a Culture of Accountability and Openness
Churches that thrive after reform do so because they establish a new culture:
- Congregational members are encouraged to speak up, pray, and ask questions without fear.
- Pastors and leaders model transparency, repentance, and mutual submission.
- Decision-making processes are open, biblical, and bathed in prayer.
A toxic culture can’t be fixed with policies—it must be transformed by the gospel.
The End Goal: A Church That Looks Like Christ
Reform is hard. It requires courage, confrontation, and sometimes loss. But the fruit of obedience is peace, health, and a church that reflects the heart of Christ. As churches commit to this kind of deep change, they become places where pastors thrive, members grow, and God is glorified.
Let judgment begin in the household of God—so that healing can, too.